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Covid Anxiety: Getting Back To Life

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Feeling some covid anxiety about getting back to life?

It’s common to feel some degree of anxiety when it comes to reentering post vaccine life. After all, you’ve been living in quarantine for the past year doing your best to stay away from others and those nasty germs. For those who already have a disposition to anxiety, the fear can be heightened.


One idea is to take it slow. You don’t have to go all out in attending every social function and dinner offered to you. When it comes to working with most anxieties, exposure therapy is recommended. This therapy entails exposing yourself to what you fear in manageable steps. You might first start out with a small, outdoor gathering and stay for 30 minutes. The next week you might do another small gathering but staying for 1 hour. Eventually building up to whatever your end goal is. Exposure therapy helps us build tolerance to what we fear.

Using Nature To Ease COVID Anxiety

If you’ve really been isolated, using outdoor spaces is a great reentry point. The fresh air and literal space can be a nice place to begin exposing yourself and working through your fears. There are many local, state, and national parks to roam. In fact, starting local and moving to bigger parks could actually be a great step in exposure as bigger parks often have more people. Or even going super early in the morning could be a great first step as midday and evening foot traffic in hiking spots can increase.

Not sure where to go? Here is a link to both Sonoma County Regional Parks and California National Parks. There is so much beauty where we live. Being in calming environments can be great when it comes to anxiety, helping us to tap into our parasympathetic nervous system.

Stay tuned for more ideas on healthy ways to cope and even live well with covid anxiety and stress!

If you would like some help on how to work through covid anxiety or are curious about using exposure therapy, please feel free to contact me for support and answers.

Social Anxiety: How To Work Through It

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When it comes to social anxiety, take note. We are talking reasonable. Reasonable means not throwing yourself to the wolves and trying to FaceTime your most gorgeous coworker that you never talk to. At least not yet.


When it comes to social anxiety, you want to start in incremental steps. You might begin by FaceTiming a friend, if this method of communication makes you socially uncomfortable. Then you might start saying hi to people you pass by, with the knowledge people might not say hi back. Next you could practice having organic conversations with store clerks. Moving on to joining group friend zooms and making an intentional effort to speak up. Then joining a networking meeting. On and on. You get to set the steps, working up to your final goal. Just make sure those are reasonable steps to take. And yes, you will and SHOULD feel uncomfortable. That’s how you are going to grow!


I’m talking about building tolerance to feeling uncomfortable and watching social anxiety melt away. Right down to a puddle on the ground with you smiling big because you feel connected to people and more confident in your abilities.


So often what we fear is much worse than what actually happens.


They key is you’ve got to get comfortable with being uncomfortable then you can start to feel comfortable. Makes sense? Good! You’ve got this!

Want to read more about anxiety help? Click here other articles written by me.

Want to talk with me about getting help for social anxiety? Contact me!

Interested in knowing more about anxiety disorders? Check out the National Institute on Mental Health.

Anxiety During Covid And Uncertain Times

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In uncertain times, anxiety is bound to flare for many people. However, if we have tools to best support ourselves, anxiety can be kept at bay. Watch this video on how to move through COVID anxiety through taking precautions and learning how to tolerate the rest.

Want to talk with me about anxiety? You can contact me here.

You can find more articles on anxiety here written by me. Also head to the Mayo Clinic to learn more about different anxiety disorders.

To All Class of 2020 Graduates and Parents

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A note to all graduates (8th, high school, college, and beyond) and their parents:


I can’t imagine. Working so hard, spending so many years, and then bam, nothing. I got to have an 8th grade promotion, a high school graduation, a college graduation, and opted out of my graduate school ceremony. I had all those events that tag along with it. Senior skip day, prom, dressing in a cap and gown, spring sports and banquets, senior fun night. I also had a choice about whether I participated or stayed home. I am so deeply sorry for those of you who don’t.


I still remember both my high school and college ceremonies. The event itself, the family parties, and even better, the parties with friends after. These memories are stored for life, and I want to tell you again, I am so deeply sorry if you have to miss these major life milestones.


I write this apology to you as an adult who who can recognize on a profound level just what this loss might be like for you.


I know my apology, my sorry might not mean much because there is nothing myself or the other adults in your life can do to save you from the heart ache of missing out. What I want you to hear though is that we see you, we feel you, and we know a lot about grief and loss and what it feels like.


I hate to be the bearer of this news, but grief and loss will come throughout your life. It may stay longer than you’d like. It comes in the stages of denial, bargaining, anger, sadness, and acceptance. You might think grief and loss only shows up when someone dies, but I hope you learn early that this process will come in many forms. Not because I want you to experience it, but because it will in fact come. Loss of friendships, loss of intimate relationships, change of jobs, change of schools, death of animals and people, climate change, change in leadership, and loss of graduation to name a few. There is so much that can evoke the strong winds of grief and loss.


Yours is a generation focused on being happy, and I am so thankful for the joy it brings. But I caution you not to overlook or push away the feelings of grief and loss that may be knocking at your door. Because the catch with grief and loss is, it comes at its own time and stays for however long it decides. It’s a feeling we can’t control. No matter how much you try and bury it, it finds ways to emerge. So welcome your sadness, your anger, and your hurt. Tend to those feelings with the great love you possess. Treat yourself the way you would a friend. Be kind, understanding, and patient with your feelings and yourself.


And when you can, check in and be real with your feelings and share them with your friends. One of you needs to step up and say something. You don’t have to pretend it’s all ok, and you don’t have to go it alone.


Us adults, we may not walk in your shoes, but we’ll do our best to be there for you. We all know about grief and loss and the pain it comes with. We will hold your hand and heart, offer you love and support, sit quietly with you because no words can undue what’s been done, and get through this time.

COVID And Making Weekends Great Again

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Mom and daughter during covid on the weekends


When I got home from work yesterday, we did our new routine. Wondering what that is? Don’t hold your breath for something magical. We ate dinner together and watched tv. It may not sound out of the ordinary for you, however pre COVID-19, a few nights a week, we didn’t eat dinner together for various reasons. We also didn’t watch tv during the week. So this new routine is in fact new. Covid and weekends are bringing us all something new.


Because I am still at my office and the chores continue, things do feel different to me, but in many ways still the same.

From A Child’s Point Of View


When I look through the lens of children though, things are drastically different. Online school, no in person contact, not many places to go, sleeping in a little longer, staying up a little later, baked goods coming out our ears…..


My kid the other day said to us, “I’m not looking forward to the weekend. It’s just more of the same. I can’t tell it apart from any other day, so I am not looking forward to it the way I used to.” I was a bit surprised as I am loving this slowed down life in a lot of ways. But then again, many things are the same for me. I took her feelings in though and thought, “She’s totally right! She telling me she needs something different.” This change for kids is a hard one and isn’t going away in the near future.


So I’m on a mission to make weekends great again. I’m not talking about buying a big screen tv and purchasing a swimming pool. No spending huge amounts of money to satiate my kids.


I’m talking about what I can do within reason to make weekends during Covid feel like something special, and I would love to hear your ideas.

Here are a few ideas I have:


1. Rent a movie. Yes we are watching shows during the week, but renting a movie is different. Or doing a movie exchange with another family but leaving them on your porch and swapping.

2. Get take out. I haven’t been eating out much at this time. Truth be told, my husband is a chef so I eat killer food much of the time anyway. But going out is something special my girls love to do, so I am going to allow my girls to choose the menu this weekend in ordering some take out.

3. Dust off my bike. Since we have a dog, I always stick to walking/running. However, my kids are going to love it if I can ride with them. Yes this involves leaving the dog being at home, but Gracie girl will get her exercise another time.

4. Picnic. Being outside in nature is the best! It definitely fuels me. Plus, they will have my undivided attention. No chores staring me in the face when I am outside.

5. Outdoor art. I love to do art with my kids. Time to get outside with the supplies. I don’t have the time during the week for this, so this will be extra special for my kids.6. Build an outdoor fort. Living in the country, we’ve got some materials to play around with. Plus we’ve been watching old episodes of Alone, so let’s put those “survival skills” to the test!


Got some ideas to share on Covid and weekends? Please send me an email for more I can include with this post!

Want to learn more about how to handle COVID anxiety? Check out my video here.https://sierradator.com/2020/10/anxiety-during-covid/


COVID-19 And Resources

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I want you to know I am here for parents, girls, and all the wonderful clients I get to serve through my therapy practice and Wise Girl Workshops.

I know times are tough in so many ways.  We are in the midst of a world crisis and a host of unknowns.  Even though this is the case, I want you to know I am still here and available.  I have moved my entire private practice and Wise Girl Workshops program to an online forum, so I can continue to see my individual clients and workshop participants from the comfort of their own home until we can get back into the office. Please let me know if you would like to schedule by sending an email here.

I have been working on ways to give back to the community and world I love so much.  This week I have been in conversation with Hilary Truong from Our Girl Collective to offer FREE “3 Conversations For Parents Of Girls In Uncertain Times.”  These conversations talk about how to manage anxiety, self care, resiliency, social isolation, and media overload for parents so you can better support your girl.  Please note, they will only be available until Sunday March 22, 2020

The other way I am supporting the community is by offering a donation based virtual Social Emotional Workshop series for girls.  You can find all the details in the flier below.  These workshops are for residents of California and are not considered therapy.  Instead this a forum for girls to come together, support each other, develop healthy coping skills, and engage in a mindfulness practice.  There is a suggested $25 donation but no one will be turned away for lack of funds.  See the flier attached here for more info.  You can also reserve her spot here.  

Want to know more about Wise Girl Workshops?